A younger version of me used to think that being a mentor was reserved for people who had reached the highest rung on the ladder and for people who are an expert in their field. They know where they are heading, they are focused, dedicated, and determined.

I would have said that a mentor is someone who is walking their talk. Someone who is knowledgeable beyond their years. What I didn’t consider back then was that mentoring is a partnership. It is a learning ground for both the mentor and the mentee. It is an opportunity for both to gain new perspectives.

Steven Spielberg hit the nail on the head: “The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.”

While exploring how I can be a good mentor for myself and others, a few things emerged that I wish to share with you all.

These three pointers build on each other are helpful reminders when we step into the role of mentor:

1. Embrace self-knowledge

Dive into, accept, and appreciate who you are and what you bring. When you own what you bring, you take responsibility for the stories you tell yourself and others. You’re turning lived experiences into wisdom.

2. Elevate self-guidance

Discover how you learn, listen, and lead by tuning into your values. And when you live in alignment with your values, your choices become simple. You’ll expand your sense of purpose, direction, and freedom.

3. Evolve self-leadership

Taking responsibility for your choices, actions, and reactions, you have the confidence to show up in all relationships. When you show up fully, you are empowered to lead and to contribute.

By embracing self-knowledge, elevating self-guidance, and evolving self-leadership, we are fostering an environment in which inner and outer learning can flourish. For ourselves, and in extension, for those we mentor.

Do you think of yourself as a mentor?

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Until next time!