I’m not going to lie, practising conscious, intentional self-leadership can be tough.


When it really landed with me that I can’t push the responsibility to someone else, the world stopped. Only for a moment, but it was enough.

I am responsible for how I show up, and for how I choose to receive, react, and respond to the events around me.

This isn’t to say that I’m not impacted by challenging situations or difficult life experiences. That I am never affected by what comes my way.

I am. The key is how I choose to respond to these events.


How we lead Self is how we lead others.

Self-leadership is about who we choose to be. It is our response that will make or break what happens next.

It is said that the way we do one thing is how we do everything. 

Similarly, in the context of self-leadership, I’d offer that how we lead and support Self (alignment and authenticity) is how we lead and support others (impact).

Building upon this notion, I feel inspired to add another component for comparison:

In decision-making we talk about making informed decisions, i.e. we think about and weigh the pros and cons before making our decision.

We have the opportunity to do the same with self-leadership.


In self-leadership there are two paths.

A big part of self-leadership is how we receive and respond to life’s events.

We change and grow every day. It’s part of life’s tapestry. We cannot not grow and evolve. The question is if we acknowledge it, or not.

==> Path A: We can show up from habit: reactive, unconscious, unclear.

==> Path B: We can show up in an informed way: conscious and intentional, with clarity.

When we show up from habit, we are in a reactive mode. As a result, we create more of the same. And as we can’t avoid change, placing focus on staying the same brings drama and bumps along our path. It’s inevitable.

The drama is telling us that the situation is out of alignment with who we are becoming.

The drama is telling us that the situation is out of alignment with who we are becoming.

If we instead show up in an informed and intentional way, we acknowledge our growth and evolution. We make conscious and informed decisions. We have clarity, we act (instead of react), we practise conscious self-leadership.

A few years into my self-development journey, I committed to following the path of non-judgment, forgiveness, being open to outcome, and following my values and inner guidance in all my decision-making. This is what self-leadership looks like for me, this is who I choose to be.

Your definition of self-leadership might be similar to mine, or it might be totally different.

The point is that each of us will have our own definition. You have the opportunity and choice to decide what it looks like for you – who you want to be.

It is a daily choice.

Balancing living life with practising conscious self-leadership can be tough.

For me, the tough bit is sticking to receiving and responding to events without lengthy detours off my chosen self-leadership path. To stay present, and to receive and respond in such a way that I honour myself even though the world around me might not understand (or agree).

Conscious self-leadership is a choice.

Do I follow it 100% of the time? No.

But with practise, I’m getting close.

Which path of self-leadership do you choose?

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